Again, You Are the Lens By Which You View the World

A good mood or a bad mood is relative. Some people seem to never get mired in a bad mood. Some people seem to never be able to draw themselves up and out of a crappy mood. The former are like dragonflies flitting here and there and touching the water's surface for just a moment before flitting away again. The latter are like boat anchors, stubbornly gripping the bottom of the sea tenaciously.

Its all too easy to forget that there is one person controlling how we choose to interact with the world. You. You choose whether you will be knocked down or lifted up by events outside of your personal reality. You decide if you're going to allow the stop light cheater to alter your mood.

You. Not anyone else. You.

Shouting at Jaywalkers, or Mentalassity

I do not get the mentality in this town. I have never gotten the mentality in this town.

From people throwing their trash on the ground when they are less than fifty feet from a trash can to people jaywalking across the street less than twenty feet from a crosswalk. Or the obese mother who not just bumps into you but knocks you back a few feet and then glares at you for having the gall to get in her way.

I should know better than to say something but sometimes I just cannot help myself. I know my words won't be listened to but that they'll instantly respond with a resounding "Fuck You". No surprise really, people don't like to be called on their stupid behaviour and it causes their hackles to rise up immediately and lash back out rather than examine the error of their ways.

I know these things and still I cannot help myself from attempting to make someone take a look at what they are doing and realize that they are in the objective wrong. Yes, I look at my own actions and try to do the right thing. I'm not perfect, I don't always act perfectly but I have the capacity to examine my actions and try to make adjustments to better myself. I just wish more people gave a damn about their own actions, the world would be a far better place.

Changing Stations

I've recently made a conscious decision to not allow myself to get as frustrated or aggravated with the world around me. It really has been as simple as choosing to not be as frustratable, to let the annoyances just slide off and go away.

That is, I do not bark back at the dog for being a dog. I do not lose my patience in dealing with my children. And I try not to let the world's stupidities, rudeness and general unfairness negatively impact me. Change those things you can but do not waste time being unhappy about things that are beyond your ability to change or fix.

It hasn't been easy all the time but it has gone a long, long ways to making me a better, happier and higher functioning person/husband/father/employee.

What brought about the change? Just a realization that being angry and frustrated does nothing but wastes energy, diminishes the possibility of fun and creates boundaries where they do not need to exist.

I'm happier and alot less frustrated because I don't get pissed off as easily as I have in recent months. Plus I bet my body is healthier too since stress is making us depressed, fat and sick.

If you're stuck in a cycle of frustration and irritation, take a step outside the cycle and break it. There's nobody but yourself keeping you locked into being unhappy all the time. And there's an awful lot of really good and fun things that you're missing. Like an 18 month old baby boy, who has dimples you could get lost in, thinking the height of fun is to use his poppa like a jungle gym.

If you're unhappy with your current reality then just change it, it really is as simple as choosing to decorate your reality with a different perspective.