Remiss in Covering my SO's Issues
This will be a first for Intellectual Poison but the problems of those I love are my problems as well so I guess its not a huge leap to talk about a problem P was having at work, still is having.

And it allows me to raise an interesting discussion topic.

How do you deal with someone who's abusive in the work place? Not physically because that's far too easy to see and deal with. But abusive in the way that they interact with other employees. Not the boss because they can and generally do as they please. This is a lateral level co-worker who's got no supervisory capacity over P.

Yet this rolling ball of unhappiness and completely misplaced superiority complexes has taken it upon herself to use my future wife as her whipping post when things don't go her way. And yesterday she disrespected P openly and in a very, very rude way. P's been with this company for a month or so now, not a long time and she has been doing her tasks the way that she was instructed to when she first started there. But this rude bitch looks for and finds fault with something that P has done, regardless of the fact that P doesn't report to her and that P is actually doing the task as instructed.

So, yesterday, the ball of unjoy (big girl, big mouth, big ego, big ass, big head, big irritation for anyone who comes near her) got on P's case about something. Actually a favor P had done as the person calling in was a known whiner and no one in the office ever liked to deal with her "problems". P works in a property management office and answers the phones which means she deals with bored old people calling about stupid shit all day long, as in "Yeah, this is Mrs. XX and I think my neighbor's hedges are sticking out a couple of inches further than they are allowed in the homeowner's bylaws." That kind of stupid crap from people with nothing better to do than call up people that HAVE to deal with them.

The angry big girl, shall we call her Bitchzilla? okay, that'll work. Bitchzilla gets on P's case about some aspect of not forwarding the call immediately even though she would have been pissed if she had forwarded the call. Its a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation. And Bitchzilla (yeah, its growing on me rapidly) tells P how to do her job in a rude way and would not allow P to explain her side of the argument. She had the gall, the utter audacity, to put her hand up in P's face and DISMISS her saying she didn't have the time to listen to her!

I told P she should have put an arm bar on the bitch and shown her how hard the floor can be. But that wouldn't have been cool at all and I know it.
Instead, P let it go and tried to broach the topic again later only to be shut out again. Keep in mind, this is a co-worker and not her boss, not an especially important person in the company, just another worker bee with her ego attached to an air hose.

And P kind of lost it, which can happen in a stressful situation without the ability to deal with it as rational humans would do. But Bitchzilla isn't rational, she's a self absorbed wastamaton (yeah, that's a new one and I like it! wastamaton - a worker bee who's so thoroughly absorbed in their own tasks that they wouldn't notice if the building was burning down, maybe I'll have to work on the definition a bit but I like the word nonetheless) who shouldn't interact with people because her people skills are very poor, she flirts with people and gets angry when they don't thing she's funny with her in-bred sense of humor.

So I'm anxious to find out what happened today because we talked about this for a long, long time last night. My advice was to get some time with her and let the Bitchzilla know that, if she's got an issue with how P is completing her tasks, she's got to take it up with P's supervisor and not with her. P is only following the direction they gave her when she started. And if Bitchzilla starts pulling any crap, to put up her hand in the exact same way she did and tell her to take it up with her boss, not her. Follow the chain of command or fuck off but leave her alone.

Gotta go check my email again and see if there's a new update from the battle front. That and gotta read Layne's new comments since this post began, her latest post is about guilt and.....just go read it.

Other News: Better Looking Men Have Healthier Sperm
Oh yeah, how wacky is this news? Handsome men have the best sperm. Thanks Hardy for bringing yet another good story to my attention!

The hotter the guy the healthier the sperm. How's that for irony? Now it would appear that better looking people are naturally selected for by virtue of having better sperm. A curious conclusion but supported by the evidence in the survey and report. And a further burden of action for smoking hot specimens like myself and Ryan.